Mr. Ex's power to take SBX's emotions hostage and create a world of fear is fucked up. Something SBX needs to admonish and be brave about. Gain courage and secure independence from. Of course, this would be a much easier transition sans children, and that's why it's a major catastrophe.
I am excited yet cautious to be made official in SBX's home. EXCITED -- because it will bring much needed freedom to our relationship. It will allow me to foist levity and creativity upon the fray. It will make us better partners-in-crime and inaugurate my foray into being a step parent. CAUTIOUS -- because SBX and Mr. Ex need to get their proverbial houses in order. I keep getting hit hard with their war and the repercussions are stifling. I'm no good when I'm a bit player. I was always a team leader and I need to figure out how to join them rather than beat them.